Sexual harm is a blanket term we use which can include:
- Harassment
- Stalking
- Interpersonal violence
- Sexual assault
- Rape
Responsibility for the event lies with the person who committed the act, never with the survivor.
If you have had a sexual experience that you are unsure about or have experienced any form of sexual harm, we invite you to Te Whare Tāwharau for a chat and non-judgemental support.
Our commitment is to provide a safe and warm environment where you can discuss what has happened, how it's impacting you and your studies, and what kind of support you want.
If you're hesitant, we understand and if it helps, you are welcome to bring a friend along with you.
We also offer support for friends, partners and whānau of survivors. We know that sexual harm impacts communities as well as individuals.
Find further information on definitions and examples of sexual harm
See also the Sexual Misconduct Policy
Common ways that survivors (the affected party) of sexual harm react
There are many different ways people can respond to sexual harm. Some survivors react immediately, others may take days, weeks, months, or even years to react. The survivor's reaction is not directly related to the severity of the event or its impact.
Survivors may:
- Seem fine and undisturbed
- Be in shock
- Cry uncontrollably
- Engage in excessive bathing
- Say it isn't a big deal
- Be angry or enraged
- Engage in self-blaming
Survivors may also have a range of reactions during or after the assault, including fight, flight or freeze. Freezing is an extremely common reaction by survivors in shock after sexual harm.
There is no right or wrong way to respond to sexual harm, and it is never their fault.
Alcohol and substance use in relation to sexual harm
It is not appropriate for one person to use alcohol and/or drugs to intoxicate or make another person unconscious to enable sexual activity to occur. Any person initiating sexual behaviour of any kind has a responsibility to ensure that consent is given voluntarily and freely.
If one person is too intoxicated or incapacitated to give consent or refuse to have sex, any sexual activity is unlawful.
Experiencing any form of sexual harm can affect a person's emotional and psychological well-being.
Alcohol and drugs may be used as a coping strategy; however, there can be negative consequences, including substance abuse or engaging in risky behaviours.
Counsellors and specialists can aid in developing healthier coping strategies and working through the emotions that accompany sexual harm experiences.